Entitled sister criticizes couple's parenting style, so they tell her she's no longer welcome to live under their roof: ‘[She said] that I'm too soft’

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  • a mother consoling upset little daughter in bathroom at home
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  • "AITJ for telling my sister she cant stay with us anymore after she kept undermining how we parent?"

    I (34F) am married and have two kids ages 5 and 2. My sister Lena (29F) went thru a breakup and asked if she could stay with us for a few weeks while she gets back on her feet.
  • We dont have a big house but I agreed since shes family. She started making comments about how we parent.
  • She would say things like you really let them talk to you like that or if they were my kids they would never act this way.
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  • She doesnt have kids but is very confident in her opinions. It escalated when she started correcting my kids directly.
  • She told my 5 year old he was being manipulative when he cried cause he didnt want to stop playing.
  • Another time she told my 2 year old to calm down in a harsh tone during a tantrum.
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  • I asked her not to discipline or criticize the kids and to bring concerns to me instead.
  • She said she was just helping and that Im too soft. The final straw was when she posted on Instagram about gentle parenting creating entitled kids with a caption about watching it in real time.
  • Several people we know saw it. I told her that wasnt ok. She said I was being overly sensitive and that she should be allowed to have opinions in her sisters house.
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  • I told her she needed to find somewhere else to stay by the end of the month.
  • a woman packing her belongings in a suitcase
  • Now my parents are involved. They think I overreacted and should of let her stay until she found a place.
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  • Lena says I kicked her out during a vulnerable time. I feel bad but I also feel like my kids deserve to feel safe in their own home.
  • Firm Assumption_7940 NTJ. She was a guest in your home and crossed a huge line by parenting your kids and then blasting you on social media. That alone would've been enough for me.
  • OP thornivelle Yeah the instagram post really pushed it over the edge for me. I coud have handled the comments in private but putting it online felt really disrespectful.
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  • NTA gastropodia42 Tell your parents that if they had taught her manners this would not have happened.
  • NefariousnessSweet70 Parents think you are the one to let her stay? Guess where she goes next?
  • Ok_Example 1664 Then she can stay with them
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  • ObviousSalamandar NTJ at all! Lena was entirely inappropriate in giving you unwanted unhelpful feedback. Using social media in this way invites drama. It's shocking that Lena would expect to remain welcome in your home while publicly criticizing you treating your children like people with basic human rights.
  • ezma1983 "Gee, sis, maybe you have a point about gentle parenting creating entitled kids. I mean, you disrespected me in my own house and publicly put me on blast, yet Mom and Dad are insisting I don't do anything to hurt your feelings. Maybe all that coddling is what made you the kind of judgemental princess who thinks she can bite the hand that feeds her and suffer no consequences. What do you think?"

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